Tying The Knot: A Premarital Guide to a Strong and Lasting Marriage by Rob Green #BookReview

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Tying The Knot: A Premarital Guide to a Strong and Lasting Marriage:

Advised by both tellers of fairy tales and harbingers of doom, many engaged couples simply don’t know what to expect from marriage, so they focus their anxious energies on the wedding day.

Rob Green, a pastor, counselor, and veteran of many premarital counseling sessions, shares that the joy, fun, companionship, and love couples hope for before marriage are not only possible, they are actually God’s plan for marriage. But none of these wonderful things happen automatically when you tie the knot. A strong and satisfying marriage must be intentionally built on Jesus.

Tying the Knot offers soon-to-be-married couples a practical vision of Christ-centered marriage that is realistic, hopeful, and actionable. This nine-session study guides couples through issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy, showing how each can be successfully resolved with Christ at the center of the marriage.

Knowing the stresses and needs of a couple in their season of engagement, Green has helpfully designed the study to require a manageable (and healthy) 60 minutes of at-home work per session, with questions and exercises to build communication and intimacy at the end of each chapter. Tying the Knot also includes an appendix for mentors, making it easy for a married couple, lay leader, or counselor to lead an engaged couple through the book.

Field-tested and recommended by multiple counselors in a thriving counseling practice, Tying the Knot has already guided many couples into a stronger and more joyful union. Let this nine-week premarriage study reorient your life and marriage around Christ, so you both will experience all the blessings of marriage as God designed it.

—Presents a day-to-day vision of Christ-centered marriage that is realistic, hopeful, and practical
—Demonstrates clearly—in just nine chapters or sessions—how issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy can only be successfully and satisfyingly approached with Christ at the center of a marriage
—Field tested and recommended by multiple counselors in a thriving counseling practice
—Highly practical and accessible for couples, requires about 60 minutes of weekly at-home work
—Includes chapter-by-chapter exercises and questions for couples to do separately and together to build communication and intimacy
—Includes an appendix for mentors to guide couples through the book

My thoughts:

I am on my second marriage, the first ended 7 years later after many struggles and not knowing how to fix them. My second husband and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last month. The one thing we did different before getting married was to attend marriage counseling with our pastor, I know it helped us a lot in the beginning. I got this book for my son and his girlfriend as they have been talking about getting married. I really feel that premarital counseling should be required for anyone planning on getting married, in order to learn how to deal all the issues that will surely come up. The book recommends using a spiritual mentor to help you in areas you may not be aware you need help in. While every chapter is filled with great advice and some homework to do, I especially liked the homework discussion questions  in the chapter on finances. It wants you both to answer the questions on your own and then you discuss them together with your mentor. Finances was one of our biggest issues, it sure would have been nice to have had a mentor to talk with then. I think this will make a great gift for a couple who wants a Christ-Centered marriage.  Learn more at the website, purchase a copy on Amazon.

About Rob Green, MDiv, PhD:

He is the Pastor of Counseling and Seminary Ministries at Faith Church (Lafayette, IN), as well as an instructor and counselor at Faith Biblical Counseling Ministries, Biblical Counseling Coalition Board member, and author of counseling mini books. He and his wife Stephanie have three children.